Life is comprised of a series of experiences that gives us feelings. Those feelings are truly important because we use these as a lens by which we perceive life. As I always say, perspective is key. The way that you respond to a specific experience depends tremendously on how you are feeling at that very moment. There’s been times when I knew that something was truly not that serious and I ended up responding like a true asshole. But I tell you right now…
I’m not an asshole. And I am inclined to say that you are not either. But then, why do we do it? Why do we respond so rudely? Are we suffering from bipolar disease, are we out of touch with reality, are we bullies? Are we assholes?
Nope. There’s a little thing that we all suffer from: human nature. Mind you, this is not an excuse to act out and hurt people’s feelings. Absolutely not. Some people have managed to regulate feelings in a way that we cannot tell what they are truly feeling at that moment. It is not about being fake, hiding, or becoming unauthentic. It is about self-regulation. Think of it this way: if you allow others to see exactly the things that bother you the most…you are left open. This has never been about becoming a plastic person. Self-regulation helps you better explore yourself and understand reasons for your reactions.
I think that performing a count down from 10 or 5 may help. Nevertheless, if you are hot headed like yours truly…then this is not going to work. You simply need to get a true sense of the things that make you go nuts. It takes nothing but seconds to go from 0 to a million.
Self-regulate; otherwise, you may be mistaken for a complete asshole.